Looking for Biological Mothers who have re-partnered to complete survey

[Tig]

So well said!

[Sprinkle Bell]

While i have read all the post so far I took a look at the survey myself, and well i have picked NOT to do it either.
Sorry Kelly not having a chop at you or what your trying to do, But I can not agree now to help support a single 'mother' that will not even try to get off her butt and even look for part time work or volanteer some where.

BF up and walked out on bd(2 1/2 at the time) and myself for a woman who had just kicked her husband out and had 2 children.
I worked at this stage myself, I took on extra work load to make sure my child didn't miss out, I was not getting any CS at this stage.
But also if i was to do this survey as a married woman, you'd look at my answers and say well on your husbands income you don't need help.
if i was do do this as a single working mother your prob. say ok she seems like she's ok.
if i did it as a single non-working mother your see me as wow she's doing good.

I worked to put my child thru private schooling, never once cries poor me, i never used my pensioncard unless for bd.
AND this is where i think your surevy needs to go.
Yesterday I took a sample of a item from my bubs to be tested, i was asked did i have a pension or health card card, of course we don't because of dh's 'income' So now without knowing this i have to pay IN FULL for a test to be done on the item and sent back to the doctor, and than try and get to medicare to claim back 40%, WOW a whole 40%. to start with yes you look at DH's incme wow it is alot. NOW LOOK AT OUR BILLS
WOW no pay check left, we get next to none thing from centrelink for anything.

YET had i still be a single mother i can get the doctors woudl of been FREE, the test would of been FREE, the meds i had to buy for her FREE and than don't even START me on my other child who has asthma and costs a nice amount in puffers etc each year and we get none thing back.
THESE ARE KIDS, THAT NEED THESE THINGS, this is where you need a surey Kelly, how can we better provide for ALL CHILDREN.

Sorry but i go without on some much for my kids and yesterday had tipped me over on this subject, because sd had just been to have her braces put on which bm being the poor single mother got a DISCOUNT. I can't even afford a appointment for my child and we have been saving for over 3months now for bubs to have her eyes tested in two months time. (and yes on that appointment making call i was asked did i have these cards)

AGAIN THESE ARE CHILDREN, yes ok i am cool with braces being a choice, BUT A BABIES EYES!!! let me see where i'd like my DH's tax going too!!! a child with a eye problem or a poor sit on your butt single mother getting braces for her kid!

[Kikki]

Originally Posted by virgill

Hi Kelly,

I started to complete the survey - but like the others saw it as just a way to foster the dependant single parent syndrome (aka live the rest of your life on welfare / and screwing you ex over $$), rather than the responsible adult approach of taking care of your kids and not expecting others to provide for them, so I felt it was pointless completing it.

I agree with pendragon 100% with her above statement. Having had a ex basically walk out and leave me with all the debt plus to raise our the 5 year old son on my own with NO HELP (both $$ and physical care of him), the current system makes it very hard to stand on your own two feet. I feel actually encourages people to stay on welfare as many a time when I was putting myself through Uni and trying to work plus be a FT carer for my son I was financially penelised. In fact - I once worked it out that being on welfare with 3 kids is the equivelent of a $50K per year job. And I can tell you now, even after attending Uni for 3 years and gaining a nursing degree, working weekends and public holidays - I still do not earn this amount. And I also have a sizeable HECS debt to pay off.

Our govt and in some sectors of our society, have seemed to forgotten that welfare is a priveledge, something to help pick you up when life throws you a curve ball - and not a longterm source of income just because you decide to have kids. Yes marriages break up and parents move on to different relationships, but this should give abled bodied people the "right" to expect taxpayers to fund their lifestyle choices, and the innocents, the children, should be denied positive role models. I go to work, I miss out on seeing my kids on xmas morning opening their presents, my kids get packed off to grandmas when I am working weekends, and yes I even missed my youngest taking his first steps because of work commitments, but that is the price that we pay as a family. Yes to earn money to support and feed my kids, but also to teach my children the value of earning your money, and to actively contribute to society rather than "sponging" of it like my son's dead beat dad.

Kelly I hope you find what you are looking for - but seriously get off this wefare band wagon. Its about time society actually started to be responsible and accountable for their choices. I hope that the govt takes off its "fostering dependance" stance, and makes the hard but nessecary choices to get Australians working again - single parents included.

Couldn't have said it better myself!